broken

So it's amazing how different things can be after a few months. The Christian friends I was talking about at the beginning of this blog are still my friends, but not all of them. I mean, I still consider the one I'm having issues with my friend, but I'm not sure what she thinks. I basically screwed things up by getting too needy, too attached. And now she doesn't want to be around me. I am totally heartbroken.

I feel like I can change. I thought momentarily that things had gotten better. But I don't think my heart has changed yet, and she is right. I wish she weren't right. I wish that I had changed, that God is the center of my life and whether or not this relationship was working wouldn't matter. But I have a really difficult time thinking like that. I don't know if I can think outside of wanting this relationship to work! I want to not "care", just so I don't have to feel this way anymore. But it's like the total opposite pole of my identity--I care way too much and so not caring is something that does not come easily to me.

But I keep reminding myself of something that our mutual friend Lois said. She asked, "Are you willing to sacrifice this one relationship in order to glorify God to have healthy relationships?" And I thought about it momentarily, and said, "Yes." But am I really? I think I am. Not that it will be easy, but I do want to glorify God, and if I keep relating to her in this way I am not glorifying God. I want to think like God thinks, love like God loves. Lord, save me from my twisted self!